We, as Christians, are called upon to submit to each other. This is two-way street. Submission should never be forced, always freely given.
Husbands are the heads of households, but their purpose is to follow God's will for God's glory and because they love their wives as Christ loves the church. If they don't love their wives as Christ loves the church, then they have zero authority in God's eyes. If they aren't doing God's will, then wives should not submit to them.
Sapphira was wrong to submit to her husband Ananais and lie about the money they received from the sale of the land. The story of her death shows wives that we should never submit to a husband who isn't following God's will.
Also, take Sarah or Mary who did God's will without submitting to their husbands and God blessed them because they did His will, not that they submitted to their husbands.
Submission must always be first to God's will, not an earthly mate, but when the mate is following God's will and they revere their wives, submission for wives is essentially submitting to that which will bless them.
Women are to offer respect to their husbands and men are to love their wives. That's why men regard "respect" as the most important aspect of a relationship, and women regard "love" as the most important aspect.