I was just reading an article in the Huff Post
(shocker, eh?), detailing that 70% of parents struggle with being unable to
keep off their phones at dinner.
Whoa!
For everyone's sanity, we have to address this
issue of being constantly in contact. And it starts with me...and you.
Excluding emergencies, phones should be off at
dinner time. Remember when we used to NOT answer the phone because it was
"dinner?" Or, you'd tell your friends, "don't call during
dinner!" It was accepted that you could not be reached at dinner time or
other times. These days, we're much too available.
"I texted you three times and left a
voicemail, WHERE were you?"
"Um, in the bathroom."
People are annoyed if they can't get you right
away. We need to change that, but we can only change that as we each make
changes.
First of all, calmly and firmly tell people,
"I was unavailable." No excuses. You are simply not able to be
reached, end of discussion.
Next, when you are crying inside to check your
messages, give yourself a time. I'll check messages in 40 minutes. Space out
the times you check to pull yourself back from the immediate contact. Make
social media and messaging something you do in chunks, not throughout the day.
Put your phone in your purse or pocket (esp. whilst
driving!), and don't be online or messaging all the time. Go outside and
enjoy the fresh air. Talk to a human being face to face. Pick up a
book (readers are okay). Pray or meditate. Take up a hobby (but
don't constantly post your achievements or step by step accomplishments).
Learn something new. Help a friend. Help a stranger.
There is much more to you and your life than a little screen in your
hands. Make some real memories now with people around you.
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