Ephesians 5:22-33New International Version (NIV)
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
We, as Christians, are called
upon to submit to each other. This is two-way street. Submission should never
be forced, always freely given.
Husbands are the heads of households, but their
purpose is to follow God's will for God's glory and because they love their
wives as Christ loves the church. If they don't love their wives as Christ
loves the church, then they have zero authority in God's eyes. If they aren't
doing God's will, then wives should not submit to them.
Sapphira was wrong to
submit to her husband Ananais and lie about the money they received from the
sale of the land. The story of her death shows wives that we should never
submit to a husband who isn't following God's will.
Also, take Sarah or Mary
who did God's will without submitting to their husbands and God blessed them
because they did His will, not that they submitted to their husbands.
Submission must always be first to God's will, not an earthly mate, but when
the mate is following God's will and they revere their wives, submission for
wives is essentially submitting to that which will bless them.
Women are to
offer respect to their husbands and men are to love their wives. That's why men
regard "respect" as the most important aspect of a relationship, and
women regard "love" as the most important aspect.